Have you ever gone shopping for an outfit to wear on a very special occasion? You know, in your mind, exactly what it should look like, but none of the stores do.
Several years ago, I took my mother shopping for a dress to wear to her oldest grandson’s wedding. She knew exactly what she wanted: navy blue, medium-length sleeves, no high collar, a skirt that came just below her knees, no elastic waist AND she needed it in a half-size. Last, but not least, the price had to be reasonable.
We skipped the dress shops in her small town and headed to the big city, about twenty miles away. Surely it would be easy to find something there, with all those stores. I want you to know that on that day, in the city of Fort Wayne, Indiana, there was no such dress!
We found some dresses that met several of the requirements, but not all of them. Finally, empty-handed, dejected and exhausted, we drove back to the small town where Mom lived. In a last ditch effort, we stopped at a small dress shop about four blocks from Mom’s house.
She saw a dress that she liked. It was a little long, but she could shorten it.
It was not navy blue, but it was blue. It had short sleeves, but it came with a jacket that had medium-length sleeves. It didn’t have a high collar or elastic waist and it was reasonably priced.
I felt like singing the Alleluia Chorus!! Mom wore the dress to the wedding and wore it many times after. She always liked that dress.
With that scenario in mind, let’s pretend that before we were conceived, we had been able to give God a list of the attributes for the mother we wanted. Can’t you just see it? I want a mother that:
- Is just the right size; not too short, but not too tall, either (or I might grow up to be a giant)
- Has a sense of humor (in case I might do something I shouldn’t)
- Has lots of compassion and understanding (in case I’m sad and need comforting)
- Has a sparkling personality
- Has lots of money so I can have everything I want
- Is perfect in every way
Despite what we may think or want, there is no such thing as a perfect mother. But isn’t it wonderful that God chose our mother and gave us just the right one? It doesn’t matter if that person is our birth mother, a step-mother, a foster mother, an adopted mother, a grandmother, an aunt-mother, or an older sister-mother.
God put the person that was exactly right for us, into our life. She may not have met all of the requirements we had, just like my mother’s dress, but she was still the person we needed.
None of us have had a perfect mother and none of us will ever be a perfect mother, but if we lean on God, our Perfect Father, He will always guide us and help us to be the best that we can be.
Gloria Doty is a published Christian author, writer and speaker. She has published a non-fiction book, a devotion book, a series of fiction romance books and several children’s picture books. Gloria has 5 adult children and 13 grandchildren. She has recently re-married and she and her husband reside in Fort Wayne, IN.